So my wife told me last week that she’s pregnant. We’ve been trying for three months to start a family, so I’m very happy to say the least. I’ve always dreamed about this and I couldn’t be more excited that it’s finally happening. She’s only five weeks as of this past Saturday, so we haven’t even seen a doctor yet, that happens in a few weeks. I haven’t told anyone, none of my family or friends know yet. It’s kind of exciting to have this secret between my wife and I, we both know there are huge changes yet but no one in our life know’s it yet. I even bought plans to make a crib, and I’ve never even built anything before! It’s a very emotional and happy time for us.
However, this has definitely changed my perspective on the job hunt. I’ve been pursuing a job with a local hospital to implement their electronic health record. I was really excited about this opportunity and I have the right experience and skills to do really well. However, it isn’t much of a raise, they can’t guarantee me paternity leave, and I’m leaving a job with 4 weeks vacation a year for a job with 1 week a year. Seeing as I’m starting a family, I’m really going to want that time off. And on top of that, during the actual go live implementation, I’m expected to work 60-70 hours a week for up to 2 months. If the timing works out right, I’d be working 20-30 hours of overtime a week with a 4-5 month old baby at home.
I’m really torn. My wife told me last Wednesday at 9 am that we’re pregnant, and I got a call at 10 am to come in for an interview that same day. My perspective changed so quickly after talking to my wife. I was so gung ho for this job, but now that I know there’s a real live baby inside my wife, I see things very differently. I’m pretty certain that this is a God thing, the timing on the baby news and the call for the interview seem too coincidental to me. I’ve been trying to be more prayerful and listen to God recently, and I think this is a pretty clear message. I find out life changing news that immediately makes me see this new job differently, RIGHT before they call me in for an interview. I don’t see how the timing could be anything but a sign from God.
It’s a very strange place to be, because I am basically walking into this job with ease. I’m the perfect candidate for what they need, and every step in the hiring process feels like a formality. I haven’t decided what to do yet, but I’m probably not going to take the job. It doesn’t really further my current goals, other than getting me out of my current job. Outside of that one thing, everything else about it is a negative for me.
This is a very confusing time for me in my career. I want to work as a web developer because I think that would make me most happy. I can’t get a job doing that though, because I don’t have any education or experience. I hate my current boss and want a change, but the benefits working for local government are very attractive for a brand new dad. I am perfectly suited for this new job, but the benefits aren’t great and ultimately it doesn’t further my long term goals. It actually further mires me down in the work I’m currently doing, which I don’t really enjoy and don’t want to do long term.
I think I’m going to stick it out here for a while. The baby changes things for me. Ideally, I could get hired on for some remote company doing some kind of entry level web design and learn the tools of the trade from their senior staff. That way I could work from home for them for awhile, before ultimately starting my own web development business. However, I don’t see that in the cards, at least not right now. I think I’ll stay here in my current job, unless something becomes available at the hospital in the town I live in. currently, I commute 45 minutes away from home. If I could get hired on in my hometown, I’d see that as a worthy compromise for the time off I’d be losing. I’d have more time at home to work on web development, so that’s the only thing I’m going to be looking at, at least until after the baby is born.
Whatever happens, at least I have my wife and my baby on the way. I know this blog has been pretty heavy on the job hunt, but I’m honestly in a very lucky place. I have a decent job with a lot of built in security, I have good benefits, I have a wife who loves me, I have a baby on the way, we live in the richest country in the world in a time of great financial and technological prosperity (despite Trump’s election), I honestly don’t have much to complain about. Maybe it’s from reading The Rational Optimist recently, but my outlook on life is pretty good right now.
Now I just need to get started on that crib!